The (Feminist) Empire Strikes Back

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If you’ve existed as a woman for enough time on this Earth, chances are at some point you will become the villain in someone else’s story. 

Maybe it’s because you left a toxic or abusive relationship that was ruining your life and now post-breakup, your ex blames you for derailing his life. Perhaps a beloved employee at work regularly made you uncomfortable, so you spoke out against them and they got fired. It might be because you’re low on energy and say no to requests for care from people who expect it—placing boundaries around these kinds of expectations tends to shatter relationships. 

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